Archive for September, 2010

September 25, 2010, 7:00 pm
National Day of Remembrance for Murder Victims


Who: Survivors of Homicide Victims, family and friends, community leaders,
law enforcement and the public are invited
What: The National Day of Remembrance for Murder Victims
When: Saturday, September 25, 2010 at 7 pm
Where: J.T. Neeley Building at Veterans’ Park on Veterans’ Blvd., Tupelo, Ms
Why: To show community support for the victims and their loved ones, and to advocate
for prevention of violence in our communities.

Note: Please bring an “empty” pair of shoes for the ceremony. Bring an umbrella for the walk in case of rain. We’ll walk in the rain (if it’s not too heavy or stormy) It’ll be like having tear drops from Heaven.
Please join us as we remember those whose lives were cut short by an act of murder, manslaughter, DUI, war or other violent incident. This day sends a powerful message to these individuals that we as a Nation, remember their tragedy, honor their courage, and vow to do whatever we can to help them rebuild their lives. It also reminds us that murder impacts each and every one of us, and every community nationwide. This day calls us to work diligently to prevent the violence that destroys lives and devastates families.
Hosted by Survival, Inc. a nonprofit, United Way Agency serving North Mississippi.

What Every Congregation Needs to know About Domestic ViolenceAs a part of domestic violence awareness month 2010, S.A.F.E. Inc., northeast Mississippi’s rape crisis center and domestic violence shelter, is sponsoring “The Faith Based Community and Domestic Violence” trainings for clergy, youth group leaders, and members of the faith-based community. Through a mail campaign, over 600 churches and faith-based groups from 11 counties were invited to participate in these trainings. Each group also received the brochure “What Every Congregation Needs to Know About Domestic Violence.”

For many victims of domestic violence, a church, or other faith-based group, is their only form of support or contact with anyone who could help them to identify and escape what they are going through. Victims who have the support of their congregation have a higher change of living a life free of violence. Training pastors, clergy and other members of congregations to recognize the difference between a marital spat and a continuing pattern of abuse can be the key to ending violence in our communities and to saving lives. S.A.F.E., Inc. staff will be providing this training three times throughout the month of October in various locations throughout our service area.

Topics for this training include:
• Information on identifying and coping with domestic violence
• Realities about why women stay in abusive relationships
• How a faith-based community can assist victims of violence
• The affects of domestic violence on children
• An overview of S.A.F.E., Inc.’s batter’s prevention program
• How to hold batterers accountable for their actions
• Creating a safety plan for victims

Information especially for the faith based community is available continually online at www.safeshelter.net/every-congregation

Current trainings scheduled:

Lee County

October 7th 2010
10AM -1PM
All Saints Episcopal Church
608 West Jefferson Street
Tupelo, MS 38804-3736
(662) 842-4386

Tishomingo County
October 14th 2010
10AM-1PM
Iuka First United Methodist Church
101 E. Eastport Street
Iuka, MS 38852
662-423-6097

Union County
October 28th 2010
10AM -1PM
New Albany Presbyterian Church
605 Highway 15 South
New Albany, MS 38652
(662) 534-6060
All trainings will include a boxed lunch. Please RSVP to maryk_safe@comcast.net or call (662) 841-9138. If you or your congregation wants to schedule an additional training or a training for your area, let us know!

This article, dated 9/20/2010 is by Jack Elliot, Jr / Associated Press and can be found by visiting NEMS360.com

Analysis: Miss. strengthens domestic violence laws

New Mississippi laws will more harshly punish batterers and stalkers for their actions — changes sought by prosecutors and advocates for victims.

Lawmakers passed two bills updating domestic violence laws, and a third that rewrote the anti-stalking law. All the laws took effect July 1.

Mississippi ranks fifth highest in the nation in domestic violence killings. For every 100,000 Mississippi women, two die each year from violence at home.

Despite a common misconception, domestic violence does not have to be a man hurting a woman. Domestic violence can be a man hurting a woman, a woman hurting a man, a man hurting a man, or a woman hurting a woman, as long as it is a domestic crime. In Mississippi, any domestic violence can end in jail time.

Senate Bill 2923 was sponsored by Democratic Sens. David Blount and Alice Harden, both of Jackson. It made largely technical changes, requested by prosecutors, that would be more effective in punishing people who commit crimes of domestic violence.

Under the new law, people who strangle their victims will face felony charges instead of misdemeanor.

“We were told it was a common crime and an indication of a potential for greater violence,” Blount said.

Attorney General Jim Hood said his domestic violence division found other states have similar laws.

“Strangulation is a method by which the abuser seeks to control his or her victim,” Hood said. “It is really dangerous because if you don’t intervene with those kind of people then you’re going to have a murder on your hands.”

Hood said statistics show that children who see their father abuse their mother in some manner, including choking, are likely to do the same thing later in life.

“Abuse is learned behavior and that’s why we spend a lot of time in schools taking about this issue,” he said.

Under the old law, when a victim was choked to unconsciousness, the attacker could only be charged with simple or domestic assault, both of which are misdemeanors.

Blount said the new law also expands the definition of threats to children.

“Our experience in talking with victims’ rights advocates who work on this issue and prosecutors tells us that threats to children also are an indication of the potential for greater violence,” Blount said. “They told us this is something that happens in the real world and we didn’t have laws in place to address it.”

Senate Bill 2344, sponsored by Blount and Democratic Sen. Bob Dearing of Natchez, protects victims of domestic violence from discrimination by health insurance companies.

“This deals with situations in other states where past victims of domestic violence may be denied insurance because of a pre-existing condition,” Blount said.

He said Insurance Commissioner Mike Chaney helped draft the bill to prohibit that practice.

The anti-stalking law is House Bill 1309, sponsored by Democratic Reps. Brandon Jones of Pascagoula and Kimberly Campbell Buck of Jackson, made aggravated stalking a felony punishable by up to five years in prison and a $3,000 fine. Punishment for aggravated stalking for someone with a previous record as a sex offender would be up to six years and a $4,000 fine.

Hood said under the old law, a successful prosecution was “contingent upon being able to prove that the stalker intended to place his or her victim, not just in fear, but in fear of death or great bodily injury.”

Hood said that was difficult to prove.

Under the new law, stalking would include behavior that would cause a “reasonable person to fear for his or her own safety, to fear for the safety of another person, or to fear damage or destruction of his or her property.”

The S.A.F.E., Inc. Community Educator has a variety of material related to bullying and prevention. These programs are designed for classroom settings or community settings, such as a youth group, day care, summer camp, scout troop, or community group.

All programs and materials provided at NO CHARGE by S.A.F.E., Inc.

For more information click here: http://safeshelter.net/bullying/

Please contact Mary Katherine Spencer at (662) 841-2273 or maryk_safe@comcast.net to schedule a program.


S.A.F.E., Inc. needs your help!

Many battered women and children used our shelter services this summer and started their lives over in a new home. S.A.F.E., Inc. provided these families with many of the things we all take for granted in our day-to-day lives. We need to collect more items for our newly arrived women and their children. If you can donate any of these items, we are in need.
Small Household Appliances can openers, coffee makers, microwave ovens, toasters, toaster ovens , electric frying pans, crock pots, blenders and mixers
Kitchen Supplies: pots, pans, dishes, glasses, mugs, bowls, silverware, serving plates, spatulas, wooden spoons
Furniture dining room tables and chairs, sofas, shelving, night stands, and dressers
Mattresses and bed frames, all sizes
Bedding and quilts
Please call (662) 841-9138 to arrange a time to drop off your donation.