What is Domestic Violence?

 

Domestic violence is physical, verbal,  emotional, or sexual abuse (or a combination of ) that occurs between intimate partners. People who can be victims of domestic violence include those who are married, living together, dating, co-parenting, divorced, divorcing, seperated, or those who have dated once but have broken up. The crime of domestic violence occurs when one partner is forced to do what their abuser wants through verbal, physical, psychological, or sexual violence. The patterns of abuse do not usually begin with an act of physical violence. Psychological abuse, including isolation, minimization of decision-making abilities and obsessive jealousy, are usually initiated first. Abuse or battering is a system of behaviors to control another person’s actions and feelings. Domestic violence is a pattern of behavior. An abuser is not out of control, they have chosen behaviors which are designed to control their victim.

 

Dating Safety Plan

 

1.) Consider double-dating the first few times you go out with a new person.

2.) Before leaving on a date, know the exact plans for the evening and make sure a parent or friend knows these plans and what time to expect you home. Let your date know that you are expected to call or tell that person when you get in.

3.) Be aware of your decreased ability to react under the influence of alcohol or drugs.

4.) If you leave a party with someone you do not know well, make sure you tell another person you are leaving and with whom. Ask a friend to call and make sure you arrived home safely.

5.) Assert yourself when necessary. Be firm and straightforward in your relationships.

6.) Trust your instincts. If a situation makes you uncomfortable, try to be calm and think of a way to remove yourself from the situation.

Safety Plan for Domestic Violence